Finding it so hard to control my anger with my baby?

Hes 10 months old. Sometimes when he's fussy or shrieking/screaming for long periods I can feel my whole body tense up. I've never smacked him but theres a couple of times I've really wanted to and I've removed myself from the situtation. but I'm scared as he gets older will my temper get worse? I have shouted at him to shut up - And when I've calmed down I feel so guilty about it. I just don't know what to do.Finding it so hard to control my anger with my baby?
i`m sure you can go to places and meet similar mums with same probs?Finding it so hard to control my anger with my baby?
I remember once talking to a lady who i was working with and she openly said if the window was open she felt like dropping the baby out.


She felt like such a bad mother for having these feelings towards her baby, when she was told she should be feeling on cloud 9 all the time.





Her baby was over a year and after a chat and coffee I made her go and have a chat with her dr. It turned out she was really rather drepresed and had been for a long time. Once she started getting help, things at home become easier - slowy they did get better.





To feel anger is a normal emotion. You have not harmed the baby so nothing bad has arised. Pop along to a local drop in baby group for a chat with the other mothers - your see you are not the only one out there who has bloody hectic days!


Or if you think it could be more make a dr visit. It could really help x
It's part of being a mom. My six year old is constantly questioning everything I do or say. It gets to a point where I just want to yell at her and say juvenile things like ';BECAUSE I KNOW MORE THAN YOU DO!!!!'; I don't, of course, but it's there on the tip of my tongue.





Your temper will adjust itself to fit your child's personality. You'll also learn to redirect his attention when he's just screaming and shrieking. The fussy part is always a tough one because that's when he needs you. He needs to go down for a nap, or be fed, or be changed but all the while he probably doesn't realize that's exactly what he needs so he fights it.





When you feel your temper boiling over go ahead and take a step back. He isn't going to get hurt by crying or screaming for a minute or two while you get yourself under control. If you feel that it's a bigger issue than just needing a few minutes to get yourself calmed down you might talk to your doctor who may consider that you might need some anti-anxiety medication. I don't know if that's what you need, but it's an option.





You'll grow into it. Remember, you're still a new mommy even if he is 10 months old. Good luck!
I know what you mean! My 15 month old daughter (Jaylie), drives me insane. She never shuts up! She keeps on waking up her sister, Daniella.





Here's what you should do:





When you feel the anger rushing through your body, and when you feel you're going to shout;


*Put your baby in, a baby pen ect...


*Then, get a glass of water or some type of drink.


*Wait until you calm down, then go to your baby.


*Calm your baby down.


*If your baby, makes your temper go higher, drop your baby off to a relatives. And have some alone time.:p





I don't need/use this teqnique, but my mom used to use this.
Its a good thing that you acknowledge your anger and dont act on your inpulses. When he starts fussing like that what you should do is take him for a car ride, turn the radio up and drive until he falls asleep. Or call someone, a family member, a friend to come over and help you . Or if nothing works, you just gently put him in his crib shut the door and walk outside, take a breather for 5 min, go back in and try again, and just repeat that until you can calm him or he can calm himself. GOODLUCK, i had a fussy baby and those are the thing i did.
Everybody gets this and anyone who says they don't is a liar its how you act on it that's important.





You should speak to a professional you wont get that here.
sounds like post natal depression





you should go to the doctor and he'll give you meds to calm you down








you dont want to bottle it all up and then kill your baby do you?
its normal, no one can be expected to stay perfectly calm their whole life! i find i have less patience with my daughter when i am tired. plus i feel guilty when i shout at her. but its normal. we still have fun, loving, carefree times and i'm sure you do too and thats what makes you a good mum.


as he gets older your temper will not get worse, he will start to learn not to scream and cry as he will be able to communicate with you better and will begin to understand you better.
it's normal. I was the same way with my daughter, and i thought i was a horrible mom. Once i started to talk about it with my other mom friends, they all went through it as well. Children go through phases, and parents have their phases too.
When this happens you need to just set him down %26amp; leave the room until you calm down. I know it can be frustrating but don't get mad at the baby, just remember, he's just a baby.
that's normal i have this same problem difference is i have got 8 months old and 2 so is bit harder when they going be very annoying im going out side for at least 10 min leaving them alone but keep eve on the just in case and then back to them like nothing never happened the thing is i smacked my little ones but just if they was doing something bad i feel bit bad about it but they learn this way also what i find very helpful if have a day off just for yourself put some responsibility on your partner because what u really need is bit of relax and im sure as soon your little boy he will understand more and not gonna be so bad just take it easy if u still see this as a huge problem go to doctors and get some help but i think is not necessary
I tense up the same with my 2 boys, what I tend to do is walk out of the room count to ten, come back in and ignore them... problem is they can carry on for hours!! I dont shout at them, once ive come back in from my ten big breathes, i pick the eldest one up and put him in his room, the youngest is 7 months old but had the loudest ear piercing scream ever and he does it for fun when he's crying, but when he starts i take him to his room aswell.





I was advised to do this by health visitors, they say its normal for mums to get the ';angry feeling'; because they are under so much pressure, especially when the babies crying for nothing. A lot of mums get the angry feeling but most wont speak out about it, like you- they feel guilty.





When your little man starts, put him in his cot for 10 mins then if he's not stopped by then, he'll be happy to see your face and it wont take a lot then to calm him down!!





Hope that helps xx
You did the right thing by removing yourself, I guess that's all we really can do it natural to get frustrated. Good Luck
15 minutes ago I screamed at my son who again went number2 on the carpet.


It happens to all of us. Just make sure you can control it, if not it's time to ask for help.


Best of luck!