How does someone learn to hear their tone of voice and control it?

My friend is incapable of hearing his tone of voice when he speaks and often times comes across as disappointed or angry when really he is trying to show that he cares. He says he can not hear his tone and thus can not control it. How can he become aware of the way he sounds when he speaks and express the feelings he is setting out to express?How does someone learn to hear their tone of voice and control it?
He needs to take a deep breath and talk slower. The main thing is to be aware of the looks on others faces and their body language. This is key...when he learns to watch how others react he will have time to turn it around (change his tune) and then he will get better at knowing what situations he is misunderstood in and start to retrain his voice, actions etc.How does someone learn to hear their tone of voice and control it?
Some people have to learn the hard way.
Actions speak louder than words.
I have the same problem, The people who know him already know how he realy feels. I myself like this, It weeds out Posers.
hmmmm thats difficult
I had a similar problem. It really is up to the person to try to learn to listen to themselves when they talk to people, even simple times. I would say something then after I'm done and I'm alone when I'm not doing anything I think back to what I said and say to myself, ';...I could've said that differently.'; or ';...I should not have acted and like that...I'm not 5.'; But I did this on my own when I was continually told that I should listen to myself.





Another way is to record myself. I bought a voice recorder for a school project and recorded myself and friends and I listen to it afterwards and I realised how I spoke and I told myself 'I need to fix that next time.'
use gestures also softer words
When I hear my voice coming back to me from a tape recorder, I hardly believe it is me. But, others tell me that is sounds just like me.





Your friend seems to have the same problem.





Also, some people have a tendency to try to figure-out what they are going to say while the other person is talking, and as a result, really don't listen well to what the person who is talking is really saying. And sometimes, when the person responds, the response doesn't appear appropriate, because the second speaker didn't really understand what ws said to him/her.





My Mom and my Sister had trouble communicating whereas three others of us didn't. Mom and my one Sister both had emotions that were very close. (They both happened to be loving feelings.) If one felt as if they had hurt the other, they would ';tear-up';. Then the other would ';tear-up';. Therefore, I believe that emotions play a factor in tone.





Only suggestion is that your friend record everything said on the phone on a tape recorder, then play it back and try to figure-out what response was made and what response was appropriate. (And, of course, listen to the tone of the response.)





Only problem with this is that the recording should not get the voice at the other end, or it might be considered wire-tapping and therefore illegal.





But, even hearing one end of the conversation might help. By the way, is it hurting you to the point you could help by allowing him to tape you?